Marriage is about convenience NOT love!

[hot100]

After watching my older mates getting hitched time after time after time, I have come to notice that actually none of them seems to have gotten married for the 'right' reason (love).

The guys usually marry a girl because she is super pretty, or can do some things in 'that room' or ...anything goes here but love....

The girls usually do it because, he has money, or is cute or has a future or looks like he'll give her great kid...or ...anything goes here but love.

At the end of the day, people tend to get married to anyone but the people they truly love. Look around you, tell me what you think?

Why aren't people so happy in marriage after a few years?

[slacker3]

That's true (most of the times). People get married because they think "they have to" or "it won't get any better.." (which may be true :P ), or (insert random stupid argument here). I've seen this many times, and it doesn't make any sense to me.

[seafury]

Hi

The marriage for men is for several reasons:

1. When you're young regularly is for stupidity, something looks like love, but usually is not.
2. At twenties is for pragmatism, more than for love, great looking girl, and you get married before you can realize that is the Devil in a blue dress
3. At 30ties is for solitude
4. Fourties it's time for a second chance, usually repeats some of the previous stupidity


The marriage for women is for different kind of reasons;

1. Teenageers: stupidity, usually pregnancy
2. Twenties money
3. Thirties, money
4. Fourties, money, and so on.


Fortunatelly this is not a Law, if ypou are lucky enought, you can find a nice woman, with noble feelings and a clean soul, but if this is the case, then YOU must need the money. remember pals the happiness not always is a 36C blonde.

[fractalfeline]

lmao @ seafury

You'd think we're all money-grubbers from that post! I mean, it's sheer luck if you find a "nice woman, with noble feelings" eh? (Good luck with the clean soul though, that is truly rare indeed.)

What I find to be true is that the "nice woman" is plentiful enough, they just have quite a bit of trouble attracting men when they have to compete with the "36C blonde".

But then again... is a man who is only concerned about the looks of a woman worth having anyhow? Meanwhile there's plenty of cats in the pet shop right?

[phazzedout]

If I began to tell you how many people I have met that try to meet people for the wrong reasons. Let me make a simple list.

(Mormon Friend, for sake of Forum her name is Sally) An acquaintance of mine by the name of Sally has not had a long or serious relationship so far, her age is about 20. When she met a man that she wanted, which was motivated, with "goals" a job, etc. you know all the things a woman want without giving anything in return. Well this man was on his way on getting his M.D. but ... there is a catch. Sally is as prude as a 5 year old, and this man was a regular male who wanted sex after they knew each others name. 4 months past and Sally was not even letting him get to second base. He left her.

This story is not pointless. Let me explain. I have summed it all down to what men essentially want (there is more but this is the essentials, and what I have seen within my own family) men want three main things before they go on to anything more serious.

1. Men want food. Especially men of foreign cultures (Cultures foreign to the U.S.) if you can cook you just almost guaranteed a spot in his heart.
2. Men want toys. I am not talking about action figures, they are grown men. They love playing with their new toys such as a car, or television. Basically anything that entertains them, if you take that away from them, they will be bored and communicating is not something a man enjoys.
3. Men want sex. Pretty straight forward, sex is great.

Of course there is more like looks and she has to talk in their level, and of course no girl can control a man or he will feel less of himself and leave.

Sally did not feed him, (The future M.D. is Hispanic, meet a Hispanic male, if you don't feed them, they don't feel the love.)
Sally thought every of his hobbies were idiotic or childish, (The future M.D. was into Star Wars and would collect figurines.)
Sally didn't see sex as an option, (A 20 year old man... yea...)

As for woman, it is true, they want someone with money. They also have many other things they want but men don't do those things. Most men don't want to communicate or talk about their feelings.

[fractalfeline]

If I began to tell you how many people I have met that try to meet people for the wrong reasons. Let me make a simple list.

(Mormon Friend, for sake of Forum her name is Sally) An acquaintance of mine by the name of Sally has not had a long or serious relationship so far, her age is about 20. When she met a man that she wanted, which was motivated, with "goals" a job, etc. you know all the things a woman want without giving anything in return. Well this man was on his way on getting his M.D. but ... there is a catch. Sally is as prude as a 5 year old, and this man was a regular male who wanted sex after they knew each others name. 4 months past and Sally was not even letting him get to second base. He left her.

This story is not pointless. Let me explain. I have summed it all down to what men essentially want (there is more but this is the essentials, and what I have seen within my own family) men want three main things before they go on to anything more serious.

1. Men want food. Especially men of foreign cultures (Cultures foreign to the U.S.) if you can cook you just almost guaranteed a spot in his heart.
2. Men want toys. I am not talking about action figures, they are grown men. They love playing with their new toys such as a car, or television. Basically anything that entertains them, if you take that away from them, they will be bored and communicating is not something a man enjoys.
3. Men want sex. Pretty straight forward, sex is great.

Of course there is more like looks and she has to talk in their level, and of course no girl can control a man or he will feel less of himself and leave.

Sally did not feed him, (The future M.D. is Hispanic, meet a Hispanic male, if you don't feed them, they don't feel the love.)
Sally thought every of his hobbies were idiotic or childish, (The future M.D. was into Star Wars and would collect figurines.)
Sally didn't see sex as an option, (A 20 year old man... yea...)

As for woman, it is true, they want someone with money. They also have many other things they want but men don't do those things. Most men don't want to communicate or talk about their feelings.

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[phazzedout]

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Welcome to the Male vs. Female debate. Please enjoy your stay. Please note the signs that indicate the direction to the Venus and Mars sides, for women and men respectively. As a precaution, please tuck your breasts and penises into your shirts and pants respectively in order to avoid them being stepped on. Have a wonderful day!

Lol well I did say that is basically what it is about, or an over generalization. I am not saying it is all completely true. Overall that is what men and woman think about. Once woman get older and older and more experienced looking for love becomes less of a priority. Money becomes more of a priority to them, almost out of necessity. This is not all true in some cases. Some woman try to become independent of the patriarchal household. Some men do not mind this change in their views on families but some men do and see this as a sort of castration. I just generalize to make a point. I could go on and write the sociological aspect of woman and man but would anyone read it, of course not.

[fractalfeline]

Lol well I did say that is basically what it is about, or an over generalization. I am not saying it is all completely true. Overall that is what men and woman think about.

Really? I get to wondering how much exception there is to the rule.
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I just generalize to make a point. I could go on and write the sociological aspect of woman and man but would anyone read it, of course not.

By all means. I'm rather curious. If you write it, I'll read it.

[blackwood]

Well, as of the 17th of this month, I have been married 20 years. I have three beautiful daughters, a cat, a dog, 21 fish, and my daughter's snake.

Married for love is married for life, and vice versa. No complaints, no regrets.

Yes, I have seen many, many of our friends go through three or more marriages and divorces during our years together. We're lucky, and I'm grateful.

I wish everyone could find their soulmate. It's a great life.

[dj0wns]

I feel the main reason for divorce is that many young people marry for lust not love. They just marry out of impulse. My brother (who is 24) has friends his age that have already divorced. I mean come on, at that point you might not get married in the first place.